First Steps to Trauma Recovery

Deep trauma and loss takes a few years to recover from, about 3 years of your life or more. There’s not much you can do to try and speed up the process. In a world where people demand instant results, this is not possible, you have to learn to be kind to yourself and nurture yourself. Here’s some advice from a well seasoned self-reliant Trauma Survivor. The first initial days are raw, just keep breathing and taking physical steps, its hard enough, drink plenty of water and try to eat fruit if you cannot eat anything. People who have never experienced deep trauma, deep shock or loss, find that hard to imagine, don’t worry about them, just focus on yourself and if you are fortunate to have any friends, family or even a stranger reach out to be there for you accept their support. I found myself in this experience whilst in a new country and I had no where near family or friends. I only had myself to get through it, it was the hardest experience of my life. What this taught me was many things, everyone learns something different from trauma, as we are all different and from different cultural, spiritual and religious backgrounds. So these elements affects how we receive, interpret, process and transmute trauma and loss.

One of the things to bare in mind for people who are from countries that are relatively wealthy, is that there was a lack of sacredness to Western culture and mindset, born out of a vast separation from Nature, being totally out of touch with Earth and her processes. Its something that I’ve always seen with our throw away consumer culture that is trashing the planet. I wrote about this in my last book reflecting on our lack of connection to nature and how this brings a feeling of emptiness and pointlessness to some people’s existence.

“Careless of waste, wallowing in refuse, exterminating the enemies…despising age, denying human natural history, fabricating pseudotraditions, swamped in the repeated personal crisis of the aging preadolescent; all are familiar images of American society. They are signs of private nightmares of incoherence and disorder in broken climaxes where technologies in pursuit of mastery create ever-worsening problems-private nightmares expanded to a social level``. _Paul Shepard, Nature and Madness (1982)

If you are brought up in such a culture and without a spiritual foundation, or a religion, you must find a way get through trauma to come out the other side stronger. Fortunately for me, I’ve always been a very spiritual person learning from my own early experiences as a child, I’ve seen the sacredness and spirituality reflected in the beauty of nature and had many magical manifestations of this through my life, so nature has been my saviour and kept me going as has my ability to create deep connections with some animals. However, for many who are disconnected from nature and any spiritual practice, it will be harder to navigate through trauma and loss because fundamentally we are all spiritual beings even if intellectually you may have had that debate with yourself and come to the conclusion that we are merely biological machines.

There was a Neuroanatomist called Harold S. Burr who worked at Yale University, during the 1940s, Burr was very forward thinking for his time, he studied the bioelectrical fields around living beings, starting with salamanders. He found that the baby salamanders possessed an energy field roughly shaped like an adult animal. He also discovered that this field contained an electrical axis which aligned with the brain and spinal cord. Further researcher showed this electrical axis originated in the unfertilized egg of the animal. This contradicted conventional biological and genetic theory of his day. His work went on to discover that all creatures, be it plant, animal, seedling, or leaf, it has a perfect whole electrical field of its adult blueprint. Therefore, if Burr cut a leaf and used electrophotography to photograph the leaf, the leaf still projected a complete leaf, the electrical field of the organic being was not altered, Kirlian studied the same electrical fields of the body but his electrographic techniques translated Burr’s electrical measurements into visual characteristics of an electrical corona or aura, which every living being has. Modern research has discovered our DNA consists of liquid crystal. It is an energy receiver and transmitter of light and energy frequencies. Perhaps this is what projects our holographic bioelectrical field?

We are electrical beings, not chemical beings, our life force, chi, orgone, kundalini, aether, bioelectrical energy carries an electrical voltage, field, frequency. When when we feel broken inside, it is just an illusion, we have the ability to mend ourselves and overcome the most adverse circumstances, even if we lose a limb. As long as we have our heart and our brain in tact, we can survive. There is a girl who lives today called Virsaviya Borun-Goncharova, who was born with her heart on the outside of her chest, she is still living and breathing and functioning normally with this amazing physical difference that defies biological belief. Our divine nature is complete and whole, just like the electrical field that a cut leaf shows. That same electrical force field is projected from your natural bioelectrical field and it is perfectly intact like your true divine nature.

Experiencing deep trauma makes us feel like an explosion has happened inside of us. The grief waves we feel after that explosion has taken place are like the aftershocks of a giant Earthquake. We are left feeling fragmented. Feeling broken into lots of fragments allows us to understand the process of healing in finding wholeness is the glue that can fill spaces between the illusionary fragments. Find what works for you spiritually, start by connecting with nature. Do some gardening, it is very healing for trauma recovery, go camping, take up a new hobby that allows you to be outside, spend some time in the wilderness away from technology and computers.

Allow time for your inner voice without distraction, that’s a scary thought as when we are in pain, we want to distract ourselves from the pain. However, you cannot continue that way, as it just leads to more pain and suffering. You must acknowledge the pain, here its words, find a way to allow it to express itself through you and through your body, through your life, either with building something, making some art, dance, music, a new business venture or project. Find a way to channel it constructively, in order for it to transmute and heal. Hold a space for it to do that and finding a way to make that space is your own sacred experience. Sacredness is the miracle of being alive, and the mystery of it all, the divine consciousness that is behind all existence, the questions that will never be answered. Respecting and having gratitude towards this sacredness is necessary to heal. Many indigenous cultures acknowledge the sacredness of nature in daily rituals and ceremonies, they are some of the strongest people whose ancestors have endured many deep traumas, their strength is in the wisdom they carry and their deep connection and understanding of the Earth and Cosmos.

dispacho ceremony, offerings of gratitude to Pacha Mama, which can be wrapped in paper or cloth and buried or burned or set free in a stream, river or ocean.

One of my spiritual mentors is an Incan Andean Shaman named Puma, he teaches this ancient knowledge and shows us how doing these ceremonies and practices allows us to build this relationship with nature, through these practices which are conversations and dialogue with Pacha Mama. These practices facilitate a powerful healing connection with Earth and her allies, whenever we need to feel them with us we can call on them and our ancestors who have endured far more than we have.

People brought up in westernised materialistic cultures have lost touch with this knowledge. In the times of the Druids and before then we used to share the same knowledge as the Incans and Mayans, as the Aboriginals and Native Americans, its only the Indigenous Sami that still carry this knowledge as the last indigenous people of Europe. It’s quite amazing how this knowledge is universal and carries many corresponding truths and beliefs, there is a deep sophisticated wisdom these teachings carry.

In my book Surviving Depression in a Depressing World, An Ecological Perspective, I show how scientists have researched that the destruction of our planet, species and environmental pollution is psychologically and emotionally affecting us, this manifests as a global depression, grief and trauma, this is how deep our relationship with nature is even if we are not conscious of these emotions. Presently, we are all going through an even more profound global trauma with the consequences of this pandemic and how governments are responding to this new virus with very restrictive regulations that affect our freedom and every part of our lives and health choices.

Once you have lived a massive trauma, you are not the same person you once were, you go through a shift in awareness and your perception of the world and yourself changes, that has to be accepted. It takes time coming to terms with the new you. But you can explore what you are now and what you will become may surprise you. This is another reason why practising gratitude and the art of living brings sacredness to your life. Don’t see it as a chore, see it as an experiment, a process, a learning curve that can lead to a new standard of living for yourself.

Find a place in Nature, the middle of a forest, the top of a mountain, or the middle of a desert. Scream, shout, cry, do whatever you need to do to let it all out, allow a space to express that pain, grief and let the primal scream out. You will feel better afterwards.

This is sorrow, anger and grief, acknowledge it, make a space for it, release it, let go. It part of our global grieving for a dying planet that we are witnessing, pray, do some gardening, or some activity that you enjoy that connects you to Earth or make
a shrine of flowers and special stones to acknowledge Nature, give blessings. Create a space for processing and releasing your pain, that is the only way you will heal and move forward in the most efficient way, not by immersing yourself in distractions or masking the pain in unhealthy ways. Learning to live again is held in reconnecting with Earth and speak to Nature. Nature is always speaking to us, she is always providing for us. When do you take time to give her gratitude and acknowledge her beauty and unconditional love and life force. Take time to reconnect with nature and reconnect by listening to Earth. Healing the Earth is an inside job which starts with each of us, mending our internal worlds, helps us help mend nature. We can start connecting to our local communities and share self-empowering knowledge on alternative solutions that can help us survive this crisis. We need connection with our family, tribe, our community, people and planet to heal and be reborn again.

These are the first steps into a new chapter of your life, because rebuilding yourself with this foundation means that your strength comes from self reliance and resilience.

by

Carlita Shaw

In the light of Transformation, all pain is gain

Whether you have gone through loss, grief, trauma, disappointment, when ever a period of life made you feel uncomfortable, perhaps you see it as loss, however, understand that actually, you gained a lot more that has made you richer inside and more resilient.

Facing a difficult period in life means you were challenged, you under went transformation whether willingly or unwillingly, you became different, you are not the same as you were. You learned from that discomfort, you acquired new perspectives, learned new skills and have reached new heights of growth and deeper levels of knowledge about life.

C.S

Losing Social Connection is an Emotional Trauma

 

”Man cannot live alone. He must satisfy certain natural basic needs in order to survive. He has to enter into relationships with his fellowmen for living a life. No man can break the shackles of mutual dependence. This begins perhaps between the embryo and the mother and continues till his last breath. The need of the embryo may be more physical than mental, but the mother’s need is the other way round’‘-
Ron Neff, Ph.D -author of ”Your Inner Mammal: How to Meet Your Real Emotional Needs and Become Stronger-for Self and Others”.

 

Give yourself permission to be afraid, vulnerable, anxious, upset, courageous, real, authentic, confused, flawed……

Losing social connection is a deep psychological and emotional trauma that many of us are feeling the loss of.  Most psychologists, sociologists, therapists and counsellors will say one of the first essential things to help overcome grief or depression is making human connections, but how do we make physical meaningful connections when all our community hubs are gone? Virtual connection is not the same. Physical social connection is such an essential part of our human nature.  In fact, social isolation is so deeply traumatizing for human beings, that its even used as a form of torture in penitentiary institutions as a way to punish or to install new behaviours.

When I lived in Ecuador for six years, I spent one of those years living in voluntary isolation in beautiful cloud forest next to the ocean, I was working on a book. Being a very independent person, and enjoying my own company  and being in nature, I never  ever really felt alone, or isolated. However,  despite these traits, one cannot override or stamp out the human need for social interaction and human connection, no matter how much one tries. I learned that  human social interaction was an essential aspect of my life, no matter how immune to it I thought I was.

          Then, I learned the deepest joys of sharing life, when I met my husband in 2016 and afterwards, I learned the deepest pain and grief when I lost him in April 2018, albeit too brief a profound connection. Yet again,  I was reminded that the greatest pleasure  can be of sharing everyday life with others, before these times, I ambled along my own independent path quite happily. As a consequence of having been displaced from Ecuador and a new widow, I moved back to the Western world, Europe in March 2019,  to be closer to family. Barely a year had passed and suddenly, I found myself once again totally isolated socially, but this time was harder, as it wasn’t chosen, and I was still deeply grieving the loss of my husband,  I was also in my second new foreign country in a year, disconnected from my familiar beloved close community back in Ecuador, unable to go and see family back in England. I knew that going to cafes and restaurants was one  way I used to lift my spirits in my grief and remind me that there is still life happening around me, but I couldn’t even do that. Again, I find myself in a third new country in the span of a few years, even more isolated in a very rural area very much missing cafe life, the human connection  and community it stands for. Now, I see one human being a week who delivers my groceries and that is how it has been since November 2020. My closest friends are my cats and my dog, they have been a blessing.

During the past year of this unfolding pandemic, I have been acutely aware of how hard it is for people like myself, who have already been through deep trauma and loss and who are now dealing with a new trauma and loss in the form of a global pandemic with severe regulations we need to adhere to as a consequence.

                 Most people are not even aware that they are experiencing a mixture of grief and post traumatic stress due to losing meaningful human interaction with others, which was taken for granted before now. These feelings need to be accepted and a space needs to be held for this.

Sustainable inner power comes from being authentic and unique, not from fitting into the mould of idealized perfection, which is a limiting illusion and negates room for allowing these human emotions and thoughts.

We live in  a time where more than ever, we must consciously preserve our humanity, all the things that make us human, social greetings such as hugging, kissing on the cheek, touching hands, shaking hands, singing, dancing, laughing, socializing,  dancing, effortless humanity. That wonderful human spirit which carries the deep desire of shared connection.  A natural celebration of our being human, of life, story telling, shared human expression, what all social cultures are built upon, freedom of expression, including the facial nudity!

We are hard wired to read each other’s facial expressions which are innate, even embedded in our genetic makeup,  rather than a product of cultural learning. Therefore, we feel isolated and dehumanized, without social connection. The impact of loss of community, loss of social hubs in the form of cafes, restaurants or bars,  having these freedoms removed creates a deepening remorse, trauma and a grieving process which needs to be acknowledged, addressed, accepted and allowed into the social debates, to break all fearful social stigmas of judgement that surrounds this conversation, because if it is not addressed suicide rates will continue to rise more than they already have.

Some of us find ourselves defending privacy, the right to private health choices, and human contact with elderly family members or loved ones. Some of us are dealing with severe geographical isolation, social isolation, grief, all kinds of loss cause  trauma and so much more.

Its okay to talk about these issues, I for one hold a space for our humanness, for our humanity, and I am not afraid to speak about it unlike some mindset coaches who are being inhumanly positive, positivity is useful but being an upbeat persona  in a time of crisis is creepy and borderline sociopathic, rather than helpful to people dealing with this crisis. Managing a traumatised and grieving mindset in a crisis requires authenticity and compassion and a space for allowing all of these feelings to be communicated, processed and worked through. Its the most powerful form of healing and renewal we can do through human interaction and exchange,  before we can find the real foundations of strength to keep momentum in order to reach an authentic and sustainable positive mindset. Otherwise coaches that deny this are  being destructive to the authenticity and value of communicating these deeper vulnerable feelings of our humanity, of our real humanness, its actually not good for human moral to negate this important issue. Being able to feel okay about talking about this and  expressing how you feel is being human! 

Please feel free to message me if you want to talk about these authentic human feelings. I am not afraid to work through such feelings with you. I am happy to give 3 free mindset coaching sessions over three weeks, to help support anyone that needs it, especially deeply socially isolated people or those that are suicidal or have experienced the death of a loved one.

I’ve been through  such  severe grief and deep trauma in the past where I have had no one around but myself to work through it, I am able to help you through these feelings to guide you to a place where you can use this experience to turn this crisis into a catalyst for something more authentic to you.

by

Carlita Shaw

Contact me at bethechangehypnotherapy@gmail.com 

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Surviving depression in a depressing world, an ecological perspective

The Silent Ecocide, the environmental crisis is a crisis of human consciousness

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A Fresh Perspective on Depression

 

Surviving Depression- Corporate Devolution versus Ecology and Biophilia

Despite more people being aware of the environmental problems we have far less environmental conservation jobs and ecological science is the lowest-paid scientific job today, than it was forty years ago. There is no such thing as real conservation laws while corporations own politicians who rewrite environmental laws to suit the corporate agenda


The deterioration of environmental laws is an essential example of political and democratic devolution. It’s hypnotic hypocrisy that many are captive in continually campaigning to change, however its the system that requires an update.The word ‘de-moc-racy’ makes a mockery in today’s version of what democracy looks like in the West.

Other products of corporate devolution are the repression of natural cures for cancer and other illnesses and diseases. The pharmaceutical industry sees natural cures as a threat to their profit-making agendas, rather than allowing these alternative choices to co-exist with their monopolized synthetic pills in a multi-billion dollar industry.

A Fresh Perspective on Depression.

Anyone that is not profoundly saddened by current global events are either in denial or very disconnected from the Earth and their true nature. Depression is an intelligent and empathic responsive sign of a healthily functioning human being to the current crisis. To be feeling depressed in such times shows that those of us affected by what is happening in the world around us, have awareness and are compassionate and caring. The problem is that the undiagnosed mental illness of psychopathy and denial (of people in government and of people that hold positions of power, who are exploiting their status for the benefit and profits of a small group of elites).

Their mental illness is a psychopathy dominated by an obsession with making money and controlling humanity as a priority sacrificing nature and human life. The suffering of others, environmental degradation and species extinction is the ultimate price we are all paying.
In these times, the requirements to be in a position of power, the main qualification is a lack of sentience, or empathy and a complete disregard for the rights of nature, let alone human rights. When this is the case, how are we supposed to transcend the powers that govern us, if this system is being run by the mentally unfit and which is destructive to our environment and therefore the future of humanity?

A society or system that is rigid, steeped in secrecy and closed to developing its core systems, has become stuck in a corrupt, archaic system of stagnancy that sees anyone that requests or tries to improve, evolve or update this system as a threat to itself.

It is at this point that such a governing system becomes something else, it is no more than a predatory virus, in the way that Paul Levy describes the Wetiko virus in his book, a virus that has infected humanity, the Wetiko is a name that came from Native Americans when describing White Man’s mental illness. It has become a threat to the planet and hence the survival and evolution of humankind.
Many of us are going through different stages of realizing this, considering that the rise in depression indicates psychological symptoms of the collective unconscious, (the noosphere), a reaction to the world in its current state of an ecocidal apocalypse.

We may think that these feelings of frustration, anger, grief and depression are a reflection of personal problems and of course, yes we all do have our emotional baggage and insecurities to work through. Still, the bigger picture is that these symptoms are indications that something is deeply wrong with the core of modern human society. The global rise in depression is a reflection of this.

Carlita Shaw
(Written and published before March 2020 in Surviving Depression in a Depressing World, an Ecological Perspective, yet more resonant with today’s crisis.

 

 

The Dehumanization of Humanity

Dehumanise syndrome-When man ceases to be human….

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Istak’s footprint, Ecuadorian Amazon Rain Forest

William Manson explains that in 1968, Erich Fromm prophesied “The year 2000, might be the beginning of a period in which man ceases to be human and becomes transformed into an unthinking and unfeeling machine”.

-In the context of a prevailing dehuman syndrome, spontaneous human expression becomes pathologised: Being open in speech; being unashamed of one’s body; relating to nature; hugging, touching, feeling and making love with other people; refusing to serve in the army and kill; and becoming less dependent on machines are generally considered ‘disturbed behaviour’ by a society of robopaths”. Of course, behavioural modification is facilitated through ideological training, expanding law enforcement, and emotional anaesthesia (psychopharmacology).

In my view, revitalisation of one’s desiccated human-ness first and foremost requires a renewed contact with the web of evolved life, with Walt Whitman’s ‘primal sanity of nature’. Transcending the blinkered, bourgeois-utilitarian (mechanistic-industrial) world-view, one can embark on a purification of consciousness, a purging of the detritus of cultural pollution (and a recovery of emotional innocence).

Withdrawing from the world of urban commerce (and its mind-numbing “messages”), one severs the flow of media propaganda and ceaseless “information” (relating to the ubiquitous ‘buying and selling’). Compulsive ‘having’ is the pathology of deficient ‘being.’ Aesthetic simplicity means disconnecting from repulsive superfluity. Seeking sanctuary in wilderness surroundings, one rediscovers the gentler rhythms of low-cost rural living: walking instead of driving, and prevention of disease through a style of living consonant with ecological wisdom.’’

More essays like this in Carlita’s book

The Silent Ecocide, a crisis of human consciousness

Are You battling Suicidal Depression?

 

Over 280 million people suffer from depression around the world, over 800,000 people commit suicide each year and these statistics are not including un documented cases and numbers.

“It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society.” – Jiddu Krishnamurti

This book is an opportunity for long-term sufferers of depression to gain different perspectives on environmental factors influencing depression and to find insight into several different ways to treat and heal depression, with a more ecological and holistic approach. Based on research over the last twenty years, that acknowledges depression as a multifaceted umbrella term hosting an intrinsic number of problems associated with the environment. The contemporary lifestyle has been the cause of many health problems related to chronic inflammation and health issues connected to poor nutrition and poor diet. Immune system activation, autoimmune illnesses and synthetic electromagnetic interferences such as Geopathic stress, are becoming increasingly more prevalent as technology evolves, and these are affecting human well-being.

We also look at the bigger picture and possibilities of why we live in a time of global depression and why depression is so prevalent in Western cultures. We look at reasons that influence humanity from an in-depth ecological perspective and how environmental degradation influences and increases human depression. This is a unique viewpoint that is rarely considered in public discussions on depression nor is it addressed enough by the psychological experts.

Yet, it is vital to include ecological and environmental factors that contribute to depression, and the scientific research, statistics and peer-reviewed journals are mounting on this topic, of how our polluted environment is affecting our brains, health and consciousness.

If human consciousness is to change and transcend the current destructive paradigm, driven by globalization, this problem needs to be discussed and researched. More importantly, action needs to be taken by all, especially governments and lawmakers to improve the degradation of environmental protection laws and to protect people’s health by making every aspect of industry and society more ecologically sustainable. Sadly though, the opposite is more ubiquitous with politicians making decisions influenced by corporate lobbyists who pay them large sums of money to scrap environmental laws.

The latest research has shown that air pollution is one influencing factor of depression. Reducing pollution and industrial waste and switching from petroleum to greener alternatives such as water fuel cell cars and electric cars to cut air pollution will help reduce the problem. Depression is not just a result of mental or physical illness or personal issues and brain chemical imbalances, other root causes, such as a by-product of poor nutrition and a significant expansion of technological development causing environmental influences such as electromagnetic over-stimulation. These are causing geopathic stress from electromagnetic frequencies and radio wave frequencies such as the introduction of 5G and 6G microwaves used for our cell phones and internet, which hundreds of thousands of scientists have raised concerns about.

Other matters that are controversial, but since the technology is being used, public awareness and a need for a public inquiry on this topic is vital. We need to have more open discussions on these technological advances of Artificial Intelligence, especially patents that are remotely monitoring and mapping the human brain, including testing on individuals without their knowledge or consent which could be detrimentally affecting human mental health. We also look at the Western lifestyle and cultural values, which would benefit from a more ecological and holistic shift in our values to improve our internal body ecology and mind- ecology and be more connected to nature.

by Carlita Shaw

evolvetoecology.org

Surviving Depression in a Depressing World-An Ecological Perspective

For the next six months you can read my book for Free on Amazon Kindle, or If you would like a free excerpt of the chapter on The Art of Living, send an email to thesilentenecocide@gmail.com and you will receive a link to download this chapter.

”I found this book, despite its length, to be an easy, fast, enjoyable read. The book starts out with the author’s story of becoming an environmentalist, and her battle with depression throughout her life, especially when her husband committed suicide. She always found nature and animals soothing. Full of information about the causes and cures for depression, it includes many juicy factoids, such as using LSD to reboot the brain, just as you reboot a computer to get it working properly.

The unique twist to this book is its link to the environment in causing depression: “…it could be that the global rise in depression is a subconscious reaction to the worldwide destruction of our environment,” which makes sense since we are creatures that are healed by nature. Yet we are bombarded with countless toxins on a regular basis. The author emphasizes going gluten free, because even wheat has become so hybrid that it’s toxic.

We also find how nutritional and various talk therapies can help. The author includes a delightful and inspiring poem she wrote with each chapter. I highly recommend this book if you or any of your loved ones suffer this mental disorder which has grown rampant in our modern societies.”

–Susan Schenck, author of The Live Food Factor and Beyond Broccoli does raw and low carb food classes and health coaching. Another book of hers you might enjoy is Expats in Cuenca, Ecuador: The Magic & The Madness. livefoodfactor@yahoo.com

Hamish Miller: The Development of Earth Energies and Healing

Hamish Miller, one of the major influences on my environmental and energy work over 22 years ago before when I set up an NGO, he founded Parallel Communities and Transition Towns, his vision was way before  Ubuntu,  and  Contributionism, or others that later followed. I was fortunate to have written to him and he  shared his stories and thoughts with me we wrote, before he died.